Are you?
widowed mum
Overwhelmed with everything being on you since your person died
Exhausted from grieving, whilst running a household & being there for the kids
Fed up with hearing how strong you are when you feel empty inside & truly alone
Realising that life is precious & that you need to make the most of it!
Welcome, I am sorry that you find yourself here. I know that you feel lost, your world shattered.
I want you to know that you can reclaim your life, your person dying does not mean your happiness is over.
You cannot have joy without sadness, you have seen the worst in life, now let us discover the best in life together.
My mission is to support widowed mums to process their grief and learn to love their life. I have been there and done it, I have helped many widowed mums and I can help you too.
Are you?
Struggling with grief, functioning in the world but feeling like you are just going through the motions
Feeling overwhelmed with all the responsibilities falling on you and desperate to get it “right” for the kids
Going through the hardest thing you have been through without the one person you always would have counted on to be there for you
Feeling totally alone without your person in a world that quite simply does not get grief and expects you to just get over it
Well, I’ve been there. After my husband died everyone told me how well I was doing. How strong I was. And yes, I could wash, feed the kids, do the school run and even get back to work, but I was functioning not living. If you want to reclaim your life I can help you.
Try these
There are simple things you can do to start the healing process
Ignore what you think you know about grief
Society has taught us many myths about grief that are simply not true including; time heals, stay strong, grieve alone, keep busy, don’t feel bad or even replace the loss
Learn more about grief to understand what you are going through and educate those around you
Start with this article on “The Top 6 Grief Myths”
Find your tribe
Grief is incredibly isolating, finding people that understand is so important
On-line peer support groups can be helpful, especially if you can meet up with fellow widows
It’s a fine balance of finding a supportive group so make sure you reassess whether you are still getting something from it
Widowed and Young (WAY) is a great resource for UK based widows
Look after yourself
So simple and yet so hard to do when you are grieving
Often we prioritise the kids, but you can’t fully be there for them if you can barely function
Prioritise your sleep, healthy eating, staying hydrated and being active
Learn to feel your emotions
This is hard
We’ve been taught that we shouldn’t feel sad and so we tend to ignore the natural emotions and try to keep busy whilst time heals
This does not work and eventually exhaustion will win with your emotions bubbling up, sometimes in spectacular fashion
Finding a way to feel and release your emotions in a manageable way helps
Let’s Talk
Specialised guidance and support
While these strategies offer some relief, they can only take you so far. You need specialised guidance and support tailored to your unique circumstances, and that’s where I come in.
Working together I will support you to process your grief, work out what you want from life and how to get it.
If you recognise yourself in what I’ve said, let’s talk.
Together we can explore how to get you back to loving your life.